Okay so I’ve been watching A LOT of Sex and the City lately and it’s been so amazing because of how relatable it is. I am a newbie to the show since before this I had only ever seen random episodes! One of the common themes is about being single and independent and how that should be more accepted. As Carrie once said, “The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself.” This is so true and something that people often forget.
Now the one thing I want people to understand is that I am not trying to put down those in a relationship because I fully believe in love. I want to simply let those who are single and insecure of that fact realize that it is 100% okay! After all, how can we be happy in a relationship if we’re not happy with ourselves? From the time we are little we are led to believe that we need to depend on someone else (ahem prince charming) to care for us and make us happy. This idea often creates unhappiness if we are not able to find our prince charming right away or even worse, when it seems everyone else already has.
I am at the age where I have several friends getting engaged, married and/or pregnant. What makes it even harder is the fact that it is all over social media. Sometimes it can get you down when it seems that everyone has those things and you don’t. However, watching Sex and the City lately has made me feel a bit more empowered about being on my own. I have had so many amazing experiences such as moving to Hawaii when I was 22, and I may have never been able to do that if I had been in a relationship. I am fully learning about myself as a person before committing to being with someone else.
I know it sounds so corny and cliche but I think it is so important that everyone at least experiences some time alone to get to know themselves as an individual. We all know those women (or even men) who jump from relationship to relationship and can’t stand the idea of being on their own. Even though it can be scary to be on your own it is definitely worth it and I believe it will help lead to a more fulfilling relationship with your significant other.
I may occasionally find being single a bit upsetting and frustrating at times but ultimately I am extremely grateful for the path that I am currently on. I hope that this has helped anyone struggling with being single to embrace it and learn to love yourself first. (Or maybe you’re in a relationship and just need a reminder to not only love the person you’re with but to love yourself too!) I’ll leave you with another great Carrie Bradshaw quote: “Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.”